Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation By Diana Richardson


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Dear Diana Richardson , If ever I find you I want to hug you and thank you ma'am and your husband . Your loving faces are printed in my memory forver . My metta and love to you . Having practicing Vipassana meditation and one who believes in osho's words , this book is truly remarkable . I am 24 years old and every six months I gravitate to this book to find answers . When I am 50 years old I'll be still thanking you . Of all the books I have ever read and impacted me this book stands at the top . You have impacted my life and I'll forever be filled with gratitude .
Thank you from the bottom of my heart

Pradyumn Shenoy
pradyumncs@gmail.com Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation Most of this is a repetition of The Heart of Tantric Sex. There are some explicit directions that are useful. So much of the book seems counterintuitive or contradictory.

Are people more prone to argument after orgasm? This idea, amongst many others, are repeated over and over but in my years of sexual activity, I've never experienced this; usually the opposite actually. I've also never felt a separation or withdrawal from my partner after either or both of us have had an orgasm.

It makes sense to me that slowing down and being attentive to one's partner and oneself instead of mechanically humping away hoping to achieve orgasm is more conducive to a healthy sex life and improved mental health. That being said, considering orgasm to be a waste of energy or a negative aspect to love making seems completely backwards.

Other ideas I found to be backwards, bad advice, or just plain odd:

By relaxing the penis when it's inserted into the vagina, it will spiral up and around like a snake

The penis has intelligence and knows how to make love better than you do

The clitoris is the false focus of female sexual energy

The penis is a healing organ for a woman's vagina and can help her menstrual cycle and resolve her sexual trauma

Avoid emotional sex

When you're feeling angry, release the energy by jumping up and down or punching a pillow

Avoid orgasm as it is a waste of energy.

Your sexual energy is divine / Let go of your ego as a man

Love isn't an emotion, love is a state of being / love is an overwhelming emotion

Don't focus on your partner during sex, focus on yourself

All anger is caused by lack of fulfilling sex. With all the war going on, you can see what an effect a lack of fulfilling sex has on the world.

The woman unknowingly contributes to erectile dysfunction by not being receptive to the penis

Until a man truly brings his woman to tantric sexual fulfillment, he'll never truly feel like a man regardless as to what his other accomplishments may be

These are just the ones I could remember. The book is such a mixed bag of good and bad advice. I rolled my eyes over a dozen times and I skipped the final chapter on personal experiences where men were describing how daily tantric sex was helping their wives ovulate normally again as if they'd have any way of knowing that.

I'm open to trying the techniques. I do believe in meditation and yoga and I practice them often. I wish there was a book just describing the function rather than all this foofy spiritualism about magnetic genitals, snaking genitals, love gardens, rising warmth energy etc. While the visualizations may be helpful, they come off to me as flowery filler text between the useful information Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation The men are to gift their partners with presence or meditation which holds a key to sexual and spiritual transformation. Presence means to be present, devoid of any expectations, to undo or experience instead of doing, to be vulnerable and available to your partner as she reciprocates in love.

I gobbled up every word. As unlikely as it seems, this book seems to be a solution to almost all sexual dysfunction or insecurity a man could have. To boot, it shows you how you can use your penis, not merely as an appendage but a healing rod intricately linked to your whole body, to rejuvenate you and mostly important your woman --- freeing her of all prejudices she had against all men before you. Actually if you ask me, this is the ultimate solution to Gender Based Violence (GBV) so prevailing the world today. Well, that's an exaggeration but so what...

I learned about non-ejaculatory orgasms and the best way to do them. Through relaxation and consciousness versus building your excitement close to breaking point, which runs counter to appreciation of the present moment. I learned how to enjoy the woman in me upon understanding how this makes me a better lover. Conversely, I learned how to use the maleness in women for my growth (enjoyment really 😉) or more aptly for her growth. She is the prize! Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation For some reason the discussion here about the penis being a potent electromagnetic instrument, and how deep, slow and sustained penetration is a vital conduit for swapping life forces (let alone juices) reminded me of light sabres in Star Wars and its associated mumbo jumbo about the Force.

Essentially what this book boils down to is a plea on the part of the authors for men and women to chill a bit when it comes to love-making. A lot of sexual contact is initiated on the spur of, not to mention in the heat of, the moment.

Here the authors urge us to slow down and to take time with foreplay in particular (the section on tantric kissing is very interesting). In short, we need time and space to explore each other’s bodies to the fullest, and to ensure that the orgasms induced as a result are divinely pleasurable (also very interesting here is the discussion about men’s capability to have a ‘full body’ orgasm, where actual ejaculation is ultimately not the end result).

Occasionally the authors do tend to wax rather lyrical, such as the following quote: “A man who experiences his penis as a divine instrument of love and ecstasy develops a profound trust in his manhood, which rests easily and gently at the centre of his being.”

This is quite a good general guide to the tantric (or Eastern) attitude towards sex and sexuality. An important point of departure with the West is the fact that “the pressures implicit in sex can become a source of anxiety, which gives rise to a sense of insecurity and a lack of self-confidence.”

The authors drill down to the root of this social anxiety, which is predicated on a lot of stereotypes and ingrained attitudes about sex and sexuality. They offer some keen insights into overcoming such conditioning, and restoring love-making to an act of conscious divinity. In other words, shifting our awareness from ‘doing’ to ‘being’.

Needless to say, this kind of idea flies in the face of conventional religious attitudes that sex is for procreation only, and that any pleasure to be derived from it can only be done so in the sanctified seclusion of marriage (and then only with a single chosen partner).

I don’t feel the authors deliberately set out to be prerogative, but it is surprising how much this book actually challenges orthodox morality and the strictures of gender that serve to subordinate women, especially when it comes to asserting the full power of their sexuality. If you can get over your blinkers in this regard, there is a lot of value and practical advice to be attained here. Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation This book allow me to connect to my inner self and understand how my frustration in life have sap my energy and how this affects your sex life. Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation

A revolutionary approach to male sexuality offers the keys to achieving sexual fulfillment

• Teaches how to retain semen for increased vitality and longer lovemaking

• Explains the relationship-strengthening benefits of deep, sustained penetration

• Includes foreplay approaches and position sequences

Fulfilling sex nourishes love, increases vitality, and boosts mental health. Unfortunately, prevailing attitudes about male sexuality and what is good sex work against these innate features by focusing on the excitement of ejaculation as the one and only goal.

Using the tantric guidelines they have practiced for more than 25 years, Diana and Michael Richardson show men how to move beyond their preconceptions of sex as a goal-oriented--and often unintentionally stressful--event so they can relax into sex as a meditative union of complementary energies. They explain how retaining semen allows for increased vitality and extended lovemaking sessions and show the relationship-strengthening benefits of deep, sustained penetration. They also explain how to perform soft penetration and how to avoid premature ejaculation.

Tantric Sex for Men includes tried-and-true foreplay approaches, diagrams of sexual position sequences, ways to increase sexual sensitivity through awareness, and how to have ecstatic experiences through reaching a woman’s body on a sexually deeper level. The authors also demonstrate how the sexual organs can be used to heal both men and women physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation

I was into it until they recommended I “retain my fluids”. It’s not for me. Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation Supongo que esperaba algo un poco más práctico y no tanta discusión sobre tulas electromagnéticas, pero eso es mi problema en realidad no de las personas que escribieron el libro. Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation A very practical guide for men. A How To on meditative union with complementary energies. I like Diana's style, simple and to the point, instructional but not dry. Great beginners book. Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation A new approach to sex: Tantric - Sex without the need for Orgasm. Basically this approach to sex change the way we view: goal-oriented (try to achieve orgasm) to process-oriented (enjoy sex as a whole journey). This way of thinking is certainly liberating, especially for men with the burden of performance Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation I have no explanation for why I picked this up or why I finished it. It was, needless to say, an experience. Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation