In this no-nonsense guide for men, psychologist Jonas Horwitz presents straightforward, jargon-free strategies to help you identify and overcome depression, once and for all.
The damned thing about severe depression is that it takes over your brain, body, and spirit. It wants you to say to yourself, There is nothing I can do to make myself feel better. I am helpless in the face of my problems. Even at this very moment your severe depression is whispering in your ear, This is all bulls@#t. Your depression has lived with you for a long time, and has seldom left your side. It's relentlessly pessimistic, and wants you to believe that your misery will never end. These are the lies your depression is wanting you believe.
With this unique guide, you'll learn why it's so important to take your severe depression seriously—just as you would if you had cancer, heart disease, diabetes, or any other life-threatening illness. In addition, by viewing your depression as a separate entity—The Beast—you'll discover how it tries to trick you when you are most stressed to do things that leave you feeling much more depressed.
You'll also learn how changing your behavior can actually change your brain chemistry. And, most importantly, you'll find actionable solutions to put The Beast in its place so you can start feeling better now!
In order to overcome your depression, you must understand its nature. This book will help you understand The Beast, stop feeding it, and take back your life.
This book has been selected as an Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Book Recommendation—an honor bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men
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True as Heart. Sometimes my beast corrupts me. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men There are but two cardinals sent perpetrated by the author.
The first is that the book fails to extricate itself from the quagmire of books which serve as advertisements for psychology.
Secondly, it's rather sexist. Of course there is nothing even vaguely special or useful in terms of content, except that whatever ails you, a psychologist probably knows how to help. Joy.
The only saving grace is that the illustrations are nice and the book begins in a rather charmingly self depreciating way. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men A fresh new perspective to tackle the beast. I'll be starving the beast around me on a daily basis. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men I am not my depression and it's time to drain energy from the beast. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men A matter-of-fact guide promoting mindfulness by depersonalizing depression and viewing it as an adversary rather than an inescapable feeling. Offers lots of good advice on lifestyle changes, modes of thinking, interpersonal relationships, psychotherapy, and how they relate to depression. It probably won't cure your depression but the perspective and coping mechanisms it offers will hopefully make you feel less isolated and more optimistic about your suffering. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men
This book really succeeds at what it is trying to do: provide a clear, easy to understand tools for men to understand their depression and combat it effectively. The central exhortation of the book boils down to do something to combat your depression every day, and Dr. Horwitz spends the various chapters elaborating on the specific actions you can take to do this. The emphasis on visualizing and personifying your depression is a particularly useful mindset to adopt.
I think the only flaw is maybe in marketing the book specifically to men. A lot of this advice probably transcends the gender identity of the folks reading it. At any rate, I have been recommending this to my friends of all genders. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men This book is ostensibly for men who are first confronting their severe depression. Many of the strategies outlined within (exercise, dietary changes, social outreach) are extremely helpful, but will not be new to the seasoned depressionaire.
What is fresh about Horwitz's approach is the strategy of visualizing, personifying, and naming an individual's depression, placing it outside of himself. This process not only creates an adversarial tack that motivates action; it also creates, perhaps unintentionally, a powerful method of psychoanalysis. The name and shape men give their depression will vary, and a dive into that constructed other could prove fruitful in treating patients. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men Written in a very accessible language, this is not a classical self-help book. Very well documented, it gradually takes you through many of the issues about depression in men, and the consequences of substance abuse, among other important aspects related to severe depression men. The author shares pragmatic solutions to beat the “beast”.
He goes all the way to discuss alternative help from professionals and states clearly the confidential aspects of his practice.
As a Co-Active coach I found some similarities on the way he tackles the way to get rid of severe depression (saboteur and allies, leader within, life purpose, values, etc). And as I face people suffering from severe depression as potential clients that reach out to me, I follow the ICF ethical code that ask coaches to refer the client to the specialist that he or she actually needs. Coaches can help, there’s almost always a part of the client that is “coachable”, but the real solution to severe depression is the work of psychologists and psychiatrists.
I found useful this following of some of the symptoms a man can endure if in severe depression:
1. You have lost interest in doing things, and almost nothing makes you happy.
2. You have little energy and you are often exhausted.
3. Your ability to concentrate is short.
4. You feel irritable a lot of the time and may have angry outbursts.
5. You experience all kinds of physical problems.
6. Your appetite is screwed up.
7. Your sleep cycle is impaired.
8. You have low self-esteem and profound feelings of guilt.
9. You may have thoughts of suicide. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men A disclaimer: I've had severe chronic depression for more than half my life. However, at the moment of this writing I am actually in a relatively good headspace due to ongoing psychotherapy and just general attempts to try and be mentally healty.
I decided to pick up this book though as it interested me and I wanted to see if there was anything I could learn to keep in my arsenal. I think Horwitz does a great job of quickly and easily explaining certain methods for guys to try and fight back the Beast as he calls the reader's depression. He constantly refers to the reader's depression as something outside the reader that is trying to sabotage their life, which is actually something I have been doing and find to be very helpful. He then goes on to list things that make depression worse, what you can do to counteract it (even if it's small things), how this affects interpersonal relationships, and then most importantly in my opinion stating his book is a good primer for people who want to get better but that therapy is going to be the next big step, and is just as if not more important than having self-taught methods of dealing with depression.
As far as the for Men part, normally I am skeptical of books or items that are specifically written for girls or guys as I feel sometimes its an unnecessary divider, but I'll say in this case I believe it was well done. Horwitz touches on certain cultural/social ideas that make men more likely to be depressed such as the need to be macho strong or to hide their emotions as it's seen as weak. He helps break down why this isn't the case and almost pleads with the reader to not fall into the John Wayne trap, and to recognize that men also need to be able to discuss what goes on in their head and are also just as prone to loneliness.
This is a good quick book for any dudes suffering depression and want some first steps on how to get better. How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men Brief, but very practical. He boils down much more comprehensive and detailed methods of dealing with depression (and anxiety), to dealing with the “Beast.” I like this, as it easily parallels the spiritual forces of the world, the flesh, and the devil (Ephesians 2:2–3). How to Stop Feeling So Damn Depressed: The No BS Guide for Men